Tips For Making Up With Ex

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Almost everyone has broken up with someone they either cared very deeply about or were in love with. Breakups can be a strange thing at times. I wouldn’t say that the more they happen, the easier they become because loosing someone you care so much about is never easy.

Often times just after the breakup, there is that desire to get back together with your ex. Even if it was an unhealthy relationship, some people regret the decisions that they made. Consider yourself lucky if you were one of the people involved in a relationship that consisted of physical violence or emotional abuse. That breakup was definitely for the best.

There is a pretty predictable pattern with most relationships. You meet someone and feel very comfortable with them because everything is new and wonderful. Once you start dating and seeing each other often you then move into the comfort zone. You start getting use to each other. Once the newness starts to wear off though, that’s when things start to change. All of a sudden the things you thought were kind of cute are now becoming rather annoying. Once things escalate to the point of breaking and you never took the time to just sit down and discuss things, that’s usually when relationships come to an end.

When things escalate to the breaking point, do you really believe your relationship is worth saving? Even if your ex has made it perfectly clear that it’s definitely over? Here are four steps that you might want to consider if you are still interested in getting your ex back.

1. Just say you’re sorry

When arguments have taken place and you two can’t seem to agree, saying you are sorry is one of the first steps you should take. You need to be sincere and you are apologizing for the right reasons because obviously you are sorry if you do want to get your ex back. This isn’t a time for blame or more arguments. Be sure to remain calm, keep your emotions and pride in check and with a sincere tone apologize for any wrong doing.

2. Communicate

Having an open line of communication is always best so try to get your ex to sit down and talk to you. Whatever you do though, never beg, plead, cry or try to force your ex into talking. If your ex does agree than you want to start off the conversation in a calm manner. Don’t point fingers, accuse each other of wrongdoings or start the blame game. If you discuss things rationally, you will have much better results. If at all possible, it’s always best to get a professional involved.

If your ex doesn’t agree to sit down with you and talk than it’s time to go to the next step.

3. Give your ex space

If your ex isn’t willing to talk with you then you just need to give them plenty of space. Although this probably isn’t what you want to do, it will help you out in the long run. By giving your ex plenty of space, you will give them the time they need to heal and after awhile they will start missing you.

4. Take care of you

During this time when you are giving your ex plenty of space, this is the time to start taking care of you. If you are constantly hounding them and acting desperate or clingy, this will be a big turnoff for your ex. You need to take this time to get involved in other activities, go out with your friends, spend more time with your family, go to the movies, the mall or a concert. Just get out of the house and get moving. You definitely don’t want to be home to answer the phone when your ex does finally call. And, if your ex should call your cell phone, let it go to voice mail and don’t call them back until the next day. You can let them know that you were busy. They will be dying to know what you’ve been up to since the breakup.

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