Often times just after the breakup, there is that desire to get back together. Even if it was an unhealthy relationship, some people regret the decisions that they made. Consider yourself lucky if you were one of the people involved in a relationship that consisted of physical violence or emotional abuse. That breakup was definitely for the best.

There is a pretty predictable pattern with most relationships. You meet someone and feel very comfortable with them because everything is new and wonderful. Once you start dating and seeing each other often you then move into the comfort zone. You start getting use to each other. Once the newness starts to wear off though, that’s when things start to change. All of a sudden the things you thought were kind of cute are now becoming rather annoying. Once things escalate to the point of breaking and you never took the time to just sit down and discuss things, that’s usually when relationships come to an end.

When things escalate to the breaking point, do you really believe your relationship is worth saving? Even if your ex has made it perfectly clear that it’s definitely over? Here are four steps that you might want to consider if you are still interested in getting your ex back.

1. Just say you’re sorry

When arguments have taken place and you two can’t seem to agree, saying you are sorry is one of the first steps you should take. You need to be sincere and you are apologizing for the right reasons because obviously you are sorry if you do want to get them back. This isn’t a time for blame or more arguments. Be sure to remain calm, keep your emotions and pride in check and with a sincere tone apologize for any wrong doing.

2. Communicate

Having an open line of communication is always best so try to get your ex to sit down and talk to you. Whatever you do though, never beg, plead, cry or try to force them into talking. If your ex does agree than you want to start off the conversation in a calm manner. Don’t point fingers, accuse each other of wrongdoings or start the blame game. If you discuss things rationally, you will have much better results. If at all possible, it’s always best to get a professional involved.

If your ex doesn’t agree to sit down with you and talk than it’s time to go to the next step.

3. Give your ex space

If he/she isn’t willing to talk with you then you just need to give them plenty of space. Although this probably isn’t what you want to do, it will help you out in the long run. By giving them plenty of space, you will give them the time they need to heal and after awhile they will start missing you.

4. Take care of you

During this time when you are giving your ex plenty of space, this is the time to start taking care of you. If you are constantly hounding them and acting desperate or clingy, this will be a big turnoff for your ex. You need to take this time to get involved in other activities, go out with your friends, spend more time with your family, go to the movies, the mall or a concert. Just get out of the house and get moving. You definitely don’t want to be home to answer the phone when they do finally call. And, if your ex should call your cell phone, let it go to voice mail and don’t call them back until the next day. You can let them know that you were busy. They will be dying to know what you’ve been up to since the breakup.

So there you have it; 4 easy tips for making up with ex. I sure hope you won’t ever have to use these tips but if you do, they work wonders.

Women end relationships for different reasons then men. Women are usually pretty darn loyal all the way to the very end. It’s when they stop feeling appreciated that makes them want to leave. Men mostly think that women are “high maintenance” because they seem to crave a lot of attention. The reality of it is that it’s not the attention that they need; it’s the feeling that they are appreciated. Like when they leave little love notes for you or call to just hear your voice during the day.

Women will go outside the relationship and find comfort elsewhere because they are looking for the attention that they aren’t finding in their current partnership. This is why the “Don Juan’s” and the “Casanovas” are successful at seducing women because they are giving them the attention that is lacking in their current relationship. Their first step is they want to be their friend and they really listen to what they are saying. From there the conversation goes to how ungrateful their man is and how blind he is to how wonderful she is. The next thing you know, he is showering her with appreciation and attention that she desires and he’s now the new man in her life.

If the woman is the one cheating it’s usually because he no longer pays attention to her, she may feel very lonely or she just needs someone to talk to. I’m definitely not here to condone cheating, but those are usually the excuses why women cheat.

Women will also end a relationship when there is constant arguing. When couples argue it’s not about the petty things that they bring up that they are arguing about. There is always an underlying issue involved. Where women are concerned, it usually falls right back to not feeling appreciated. Ever attend couples counseling? What were the main issues that were brought up? I bet they were not feeling appreciated and not getting enough attention.

Although there are so many different things that can go wrong in a relationship, not feeling appreciated and not getting enough attention are usually at the very top of that list. If both partners would show more affection, attention and appreciation for each other, there would be fewer reasons for relationships to end. Now you have a little better understanding about why women end relationships.

There are so many different reasons why men end relationships. Some are a lot more cut and dry than others. If cheating is involved, that would be enough to drive most people over the edge and realize that their partner just can’t be trusted. But you have to know that if that is the case, the problem lies a lot deeper than one partner just being unfaithful.

On the other hand, some women may hear an excuse like, “It’s not you, it’s me or it’s just not working out”. Let’s face it, there is more to it than that so if you want to really know why it ended, you have to decipher the code and get down to the heart of the matter.

From what I know about men, the majority of them just don’t want to hurt your feelings while others just don’t want to hear what you have to say when they do tell you how they feel. Then you have the men that don’t really know why they want out of the relationship. The bottom line is that most men will bail on a relationship when it’s no longer giving them what they need.

When relationships are new, women are pretty good at letting their guys know that they are interested in them. They are very attentive, complimentary and full of life. But as time goes by they start to become more relaxed and more comfortable with the relationship. Next thing you know, their partner’s jokes aren’t as funny as they use to be, they aren’t as happy to see them as often or they stop showing them as much affection.

Men don’t end relationships because they are looking for someone who is more attractive. They leave because they no longer feel admired, respected or wanted. You’ve probably heard a lot of men say that they are just tired of always being nagged. The problem isn’t the nagging, the problem is he no longer feels that he has as much to offer or that she’s happy with who he is.

It’s always best to have an open line of communication where you can sit down and discuss what’s on each of your minds instead of jumping into the blaming or nagging mode. Remember that there is love in this relationship so express those feelings in a loving way and you will have much better luck the next time around.  Now you have a little better understanding about why men end relationships.

So what exactly is a proven method to winning back the ex??? Here it is, are you ready? Stop communicating with your ex right now. Stop calling, writing emails or texting your ex. This is causing more harm than good and human nature in general is to resist this kind of pressure. You are only making matters worse.

Follow this simple strategy if you want to win back the ex.

Since what you were doing in the past hasn’t worked, you need to take a completely different approach. You need to start by ending all contact with your ex. There will be no communication during this time. This is where you need to start focusing on your own personal issues rather than on the relationship issues. You have to learn more discipline so that you won’t return to your old ways.

With no communication between you and your ex, they will start reevaluating how they feel about you. When you stop pursuing them, you become more mysterious in some ways. They have no clue what you are doing or feeling during this time so this can actually work in your favor. Your ex will more than likely start missing you which would never be possible if you were constantly pursuing them.

Remember that you want to work “with” human nature rather than “against” it. This is the key to this strategy and repairing a breakup. By avoiding these common mistakes, you are allowing your ex the time to remember why they loved you in the first place.

Avoid smothering them and make yourself appear mysterious. Play hard to get and let them make the first move. This will remind them of why they loved you in the first place. This is a proven method to winning back the ex.